The number 1 thing girls always want to do when they don’t hear from a guy is reach out to the guy.
Unfortunately, this is the exact opposite of what a girl should do.
There is no good reason for a guy to just vanish on you one day.
Unless something drastic happened, which usually is never the case.
As girls, we think more often with our hearts vs our brains when it comes to the male species.
We attempt to justify why we should reach out.
1.) His phone broke.
2.) He was in a terrible accident.
3.) He is really busy with work and he would love to talk to us, he just can’t because he’s preoccupied.
4.) He’s waiting for us to make that move.
5.) We did something wrong to upset him.
This is just a short list of the many things we tell ourselves to justify why he hasn’t reached out and why we need to make this move. The list goes on…
But none of these reasons are usually valid.
1.)If his phone broke and he really wanted to speak to you, there are other methods. Social media, maybe he knows where you live, your workplace, his phone was probably backed up and he has your number…
2.) More often than not, we don’t want to think he was in a horrible accident. But well, if he was, I mean it all makes sense now. Duh! How could he reach you if he’s in the hospital?! This, my dears is rarely the case.
3.) He is NEVER too busy!!! This one I can’t stress enough. I don’t care if he has 5 projects at work due this week. Fool has got to eat at some point. A quick take out or sit down dinner or dinner at his or your house never hurt anyone. A guy will make time for what he feels is important. If he’s too busy, you’re not that important in his life. You’re just a convenience.
4.) If he’s playing the whole waiting on you to make a move, the guy isn’t that interested and he’s probably already moved on to the next girl. A guy who wants you isn’t going to be playing games to see who reaches out to who first. He wants to talk to you. He wants to be in your presence. This guy is probably already on date #3 with another 2 girls.
5.) You didn’t do anything wrong. The guy just doesn’t care. He can’t even tell you why he’s ready to stop seeing you because he never took you seriously to begin with.
Again, this is a short list of what females tell themselves is the reason they don’t hear from who they believe is the right guy.
The right guy won’t keep you guessing. He will be straightforward with his intentions and dreams when it comes to you.
The one who isn’t coming around, is not the one. Don’t try and beg for his attention. That never works.
He might come around for another couple weeks just to use you or for your undivided attention that you give him. Just like a child he will crave this attention, but don’t expect it in return.
This type of man will never see your value and thus continue to hurt you till you finally break free from him and his hold on you.