The hardest thing in life when you’re dating and alone is to make sure you don’t end up with someone who is lost.
Being with someone lost is worse than being alone. Let me tell you why, half the time that other person isn’t available.
Perhaps, physically they are. But mentally and emotionally, they won’t be. They will just be a physical space, a body of mass.
It’s never fun being with someone lost.
One who’s lost can’t give you what you truly need. They themselves don’t know who they are, what they want, or where they’re going.
So oftentimes being with someone lost, makes you go astray from your plans, your ambitions.
Surrounding yourself with like-minded people truly is your best bet. Not just in dating, but in friendships, and even with family members. If you have a family member who is always putting you down or thinks you should do something that doesn’t feel right to you or isn’t in your line of dreams, don’t do it.
I dated a guy who was lost before.
Lost in every way.
He thought he wanted to be with me, but he really didn’t.
He just wanted a change of scenery, a change of pace in his life.
I was the golden ticket.
The opportunity to run away from his demons and start anew.
That’s what he did, he used me to try and escape his past. Thinking that being with me would solve his problems.
But a person can’t solve your problems for you, try as they might (let me tell you, I really tried).
The only way to change your patterns of behavior and become someone else is to consciously make that choice everyday. Only you can change you and your life and whatever it is you don’t like in it.
A lost person will try and drag you down at whatever cost, and this is so draining on the other person in the relationship. You’re not happy because the lost person isn’t happy, so you try and change to fit their needs, when really the one who should be changing is the one who’s lost.
A lost person will weigh you down and make you feel like you are often the one doing something wrong since they will never be happy because they don’t know what it is they are doing that is causing them to be so unhappy with their lives.
Believe me, it’s not you. It’s them.
So the next time someone lost approaches you, turn the other way.
Literally, get up and walk away.
Don’t try and change anyone but yourself, because that is the only person you are responsible for and the only person you can control.
Leave the lost to continue to roam around lost, it isn’t your responsibility to fix these people and much less date them.
Relationships with a lost individual will go nowhere quick.
I know it’s hard to leave someone who’s lost. It’s even harder than leaving a stable person. You feel as if you’re somewhat responsible for helping them.
Once you leave and time has passed, you’ll see everything for what it truly was.
A waste of time with a person who isn’t even worth your breath.
Much less your time.
I know it sounds harsh, but once that lost being is out of your life, your quality of life will improve drastically and you’ll live a much happier/worry less life.
After all, you’ll no longer have to babysit an adult and that in itself is wonderful news!